Swimming update

We had our swim lesson right after I wrote the last post. Willa cried the entire time and begged the teacher not to let go of her. So there was none of the great swimming that she HAPPILY has done for me when we are alone and not in lessons. There was almost no swimming at all. Total regression. We're done for now. I was so irritated at her that I was also worried that if we continued with lessons I would end up being mean to her and causing emotional damage :). It's hard not to want to shame her into acting better. That sounds terrible, but I just want to be honest here. She's not trying to be a difficult child, but she has built this whole thing up into something terrifying. It's time to step back. It's hard because physically she is so there, but emotionally not at all. I've got an uncomfortable feeling that this is just a taste of things to come as she grows up. For example, what if she wants to stop piano lessons at age 16? What kind of fight am I going to put up? Are there times when you just force it? Music lessons will be pretty much unconditional but it's going to hurt so bad when I see her potential for something and she doesn't want to pursue it.